Progress

This whole year has been incredibly stressful not only because I've been worried about my future, but also because I've put an incredible amount of pressure on myself.

I've felt the need to be perfect in order to impress people at this program so they could advocate for me during the match. Every time I messed up that perfection (usually, only in my eyes), I would beat myself up about it mercilessly thinking I had blown my chance and the world was coming to an end.

Now that I haven't matched and I know I'm not staying here after the year is done, I've let all of that pressure go. It's been so freeing to not worry so much about the little things that really don't matter in the end.

For example, for the first time in my entire professional life, I overslept work. I woke up 10 minutes before our entire team (upper level, fellow, and attending) was supposed to start rounding. Obviously, I was going to be late, but I didn't rush in getting ready, I didn't speed, and I didn't jog from my parking space to rounds. I figured there wasn't much difference between being 10 minutes late as compared to 20. So, I took the usual amount of time and strolled in as we were talking about our 3rd ICU patient. With the exception of the PGY3 who had to hold the pager for those extra 20 minutes and unluckily got a consult in that time, no one seemed to notice. And I only apologized once, let it go, and went about my day as if nothing had happened

I'm not saying I didn't feel bad about being late, because I did and obviously wish I hadn't slept through the 4 alarms I set every morning*. But it was freeing to not feel guilty, angry, and awful about myself all day. When I'm at work, I kick ass and I think that speaks more to my character and work ethic than the one morning I overslept. It took me a while to realize that and it's been awesome.

This more Zen-like approach to my year has been so refreshing and I'm so happy I've finally reached this point. It makes my life less stressful and less angry at myself, which I sorely need right now.

I guess when you have bigger things to worry about, such as what I'm doing "next year" when really it's next month, the little things really don't matter.

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* I stagger my alarms for situations like this. They go in the following order:
Alarm #1 - It would be really nice to get up right now
Alarm #2 - I should get up if I don't want to rush
Alarm #3 - I really need to get up if I want enough time to grab things
Alarm #4 - OH SHIT, I'm going to late!