Supported

There is no way matching would've been possible without everyone's support, both from the medical community and outside of it.

I'm also so incredibly thankful for your anonymous comments, cheers, and prayers from afar. Despite not knowing most of you in real life, your virtual support has not gone unnoticed. Things have been pretty dark for me for the past few years, and your belief in me kept me going when all hope seemed to be lost. I truly appreciate you for sticking with me and offering your thoughts over the years.

I have been showered with more love and support these last few weeks (and even in the weeks leading up to Match Day) than I could've ever anticipated and there is no way I could ever repay it.

Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.

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As a sidenote:
I bought this mug last year when I was in a huge funk as a reminder to keep trying despite all the setbacks. (It also perfectly exemplifies my stubborn personality.). It never failed to put a smile on my face, even during the most stressful and hopeless times.

Now it's a reminder of what I have accomplished and how determined I can be when I set my mind to accomplish something. Story of my life. Now, not only does it bring me happiness, but also immense pride for accomplishing the seemingly impossible. Success is the sweetest revenge, as they say, and tea tastes so much better when coupled with that.

Third time's the charm!

I can't believe I didn't post this sooner, but the email I had been waiting for for years, finally arrived (more than two weeks ago now).

(I recognize the timing of this post may be a little suspect, but I assure you, this is no joke.)

It's taken a long time for it to sink in, but finally two weeks later, I think I've finally accepted that this is real. For the week or so after matching, I had to keep repeating to myself that I had matched. Seriously. I didn't think this was ever going to happen, so it was so surreal to have finally gotten in. Even now, though, it's still so strange to think that in 6 years time, I will be an orthopaedic surgeon.*

It's mostly strange to have an end goal, a finish line, a concrete timeline. I have lived in this migratory purgatory for so long, not knowing what the next year will bring and having to constantly move to keep chasing opportunities, that it's strange to have stability for the foreseeable future.

I'm going to be in one place for 5 years (!!!), with the same people who will be invested in training me and helping me become the best damn surgeon I can be.

Over the years, getting to do orthopaedic surgery had become this vague idea that I wasn't sure was actually going to happen, like this elusive thing that was always just out of reach. But now it's real, concrete, and so incredibly (but pleasantly) strange.

Oh, and I don't have to move. I matched at the program where I'm doing research. Woohoo!

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* I'm anticipating doing a 1-year fellowship, like the vast majority of orthopods these days, hence the extra year of training.

Denial

Tomorrow is Match Monday, the beginning of Match Week, round number 3 for me. Honestly, it feels like any other day and I've had to put it into my calendar otherwise I'd forget the big occasion.

This is in stark contrast to the first (or even second) Match Monday, when I had a countdown on my phone, was constantly thinking about it, and had to actively distract myself with other things.

This time around, I keep forgetting that it's so soon...as in, tomorrow.

I think part of it is due to being desensitized from the previous times I've had to go through this. None of the experiences have been positive, and have in fact been pretty traumatic. This process has become routine (apply, interview, wait) and the outcome will probably be the same, so the element of surprise has worn off.

I also can't believe it's already March because this year has been gone by so quickly! With every passing week, I have looked forward to the weekend where I could explore my new surroundings and enjoy having 2 days off each week that I could fill however I wanted (such a foreign concept to me, which is sad in its own way). The passage of time has been a pleasure and there hasn't been anything I've dreaded like I had in previous years. It's been a nice, positive change.

This whole process doesn't feel real, either, since I'm so far removed from the residency application process in that I'm not surrounded by people talking about it all the time, like I was as an MS4. It's a cloud that hangs over me constantly, but is rarely talked about since most of the people I work with don't understand the process and everyone else has bigger things to worry about. So it's odd that it's actually happening.

In short, I'm in super denial about the email I'm going to get in about 12 hours that will change everything or nothing, depending on how the cookie crumbles, as my boss put it.

Hopefully it'll be good news this time around. Fingers crossed.

What a difference a year makes

I recently came upon a text I sent about a year ago to a friend who had asked how I was doing. It really encapsulated what last year was like, both in content and in tone:

I'm in a much better place right now for so many reasons, and it makes me sad seeing my state of mind less than a year ago.

Throughout that year, I told everyone that at baseline I'm not a bitter and angry person, that the circumstances and the year had turned me into that. This text (and any time I talk about that year) are consistent with that point because I'm doing just fine these days, while that text is seething with negative emotions. The only difference is that I've moved because my future is just as uncertain now as it was back then.

The short version is: last year was TERRIBLE. I still have PTSD from it* and have had to unfriend/block people from Facebook just so I'm not reminded of how awful it was.

As soon as I left the hospital on my last day, I felt free. I was headed to a better place, both physically and emotionally, and I couldn't be more excited. Despite the fact that my future was no more certain, at least I was leaving a situation that was destroying my mental health and was bringing me no closer to my ultimate career goal.

These days, I'm living the good life. I'm doing a research year in orthopaedics in a program that appreciates me with several attendings who said they'll do everything in their power to have me match. I'm cautiously optimistic that it'll work out, but I'm also realistic about my chances and don't truly believe that I'll get happy news in March. But at least my day-to-day is SO much better.

It's taken a while, but I've rediscovered the things that make me happy...and finally have time to do them! I've taken up hobbies I hadn't done in years. I have friends. I've taken road trips. I still work long hours, get up well before sunrise, and continually worry about what people think of me and what the future holds. But the work is interesting, everyone is kind, and I don't feel like the thorn in anyone's side.

It's been <6 months since I left my previous program, but it feels like a lifetime. I don't even recognize who I was back in June, although those scars are still there and will take some time to completely heal.

I am so grateful to have ended up here. I needed this year not only to get closer to matching ortho, but also to regroup and rediscover who I am. I had completely lost myself over the past couple of years, and felt like a shell of who I used to be. It's been slow going but I'm starting to get back to being me, and it feels so good!

In short, life is good today (and this entire year).

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* That's a post for another day, but it's coming.